If our positions were reversed, and I had your problems, what would you advise me to do?
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If I was having thoughts of suicide, what would you advise me to do?
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I know things seem so hard right now but l am certain that we can get through this together.
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I want to help you stay safe - please let me text you every day
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I am sorry this happened to you and is so painful. This must all be so hard. Can I come over? Can we talk in person or by messages?
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How would you feel if a friend or family member of yours died from suicide?
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Having suicidal thoughts is actually very common, but strong thoughts of suicide mean you need to ask for help. Can we look for help together?
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Depression can make you feel lost and disconnected from others around you and not able to focus.
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Beyond Blue and other organisations can help you make a Safety Plan to use when you’re not feeling safe.
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Doctors and other people who have been in your shoes advise that you try not to drink or take drugs when you have suicidal ideas. You may make choices or say things that you wouldn’t otherwise.
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When you feel like giving up, it might be helpful to just think of how to get through the next five minutes. If that seems too hard take just one minute at a time. If that is too hard, it is time to reach out for help.
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I may not know exactly how you feel, but I do want to help you get through this. I care about you and I understand this is painful.
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If you were drowning, everyone would want to save you. This is no differrent. How can I help you now?
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Please stop thinking you’re a burden or worthless. I want you around in my future. You are important to me.
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What would you say to me if I was in your shoes and wondereding about not being alive?
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Talking puts words to your emotions and thoughts, and then your brain can start to sort things out. And I might be able to help as my brain is not as tired as yours right now because I don't have your exhaustion.
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This is really hard for you, but you know I'm here, and I want us to work through this together.
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I can’t imagine how painful this is for you, but I really want to understand.
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Depression and despair fill your brain with unhelpful thoughts, like it will never get better, or there is no way out. I can help you take the first step by making an appointment with a professional, .
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Depression is a terrible liar. You're the person everyone knows you are, not whatever horrible thing your brain is telling you.
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Your life matters to me, no one can replace you. I am so thankful you were born.
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I need you in my life and I want to keep you safe. So many people feel the same about you.
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I'm super proud of you, you know. You fight these painful feelings every day which must be exhausting.
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Please hang out with me anytime. We don’t have to talk if you’re not feeling great. We can just sit quietly doing our own thing.
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I want to share with you in confidence that I had strong suicidal ideas at one time, which I can't believe now that I have recovered.
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Drinking when you are thinking about suicide is not a good idea. I want to help. Can I take these bottles until you are feeling better?
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It may be hard to believe this right now, but this feeling will pass. People do get through these difficult times and accepting support from others can help right now.
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Often suicidal ideas are due to a chemical imbalance in the brain caused by stress. Short term medication can fix this. Can you go to your GP? I will go with you if that makes it easier.
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I know this isn’t just in your head, it is a very real clinical illness and very painful. I think you’re handling it really well. Please keep going.
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There is a big future out there for you so don't give up the fight.
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I understand that it is difficult now and you are not looking much beyond today. Many people who have felt like you are have gone on to have great futures and talk about the beautiful moments they experience. I can see this for you.
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I know along with the many other people who know you, that you are so loveable and worthy. I understand you can't see that right night now as your brain is telling you many negative and wrong things. Please don't listen to it at the moment.
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Sometimes it is ok if the only thing you did today was breathe.
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I know you’re finding it really hard to get up and start your day, but I’m here to help, even with very simple things.
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Please talk to me. A problem shared is a problem halved.
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You told me you’re unable to focus and are really frustrated. Maybe you’re becoming depressed, which is very common and can be managed.
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I think of you as unique, special and irreplaceable. That’s what you mean to me
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Asking for help shows strength and courage and is not a sign of weakness.
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I love you. You’re a great friend. You mean so much to me and I’m willing to do whatever it takes to help you get through this.
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I am here to support you any way you feel would be useful for you.
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I understand how hard depression can be; so please know that I am available for you to share anytime.
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Telling someone about your feelings of depression and negative thoughts can make them less powerful and less painful.
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I can see how hard this is for you.
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I just want to tell you that you’re not alone in this. I'm always here for you to talk or to do anything that helps you.
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I don't know exactly what this is like for you, but I want to understand and help.
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It might be hard to see that things will get better right now, but I know of some other people who went through a similar time to you, and they are managing really well now.
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It takes a lot of courage and strength to ask for help. Don't think for one minute that it's a sign of weakness. I know you would help me if I needed it.
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I want to cook a meal for you. What would you like?
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We need to get the right help so we can stop your brain telling you horrible, negative stuff. You won't have these thoughts when things get better, so please hold on.
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Your brain is telling you that no one will understand. It's saying negative, wrong things that just aren't true.
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Depression can twist your thinking. I've heard that when people get better, they can’t believe the thoughts they were having when they were unwell.
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I know you think no one understands this pain and that no one can help, but there are things that can help and I know of people who have gone through this and are much better now.
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You are so important to me and to so many people. I understand that it is really hard for you right now. Please hold on. We need you !
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You are not a burden and you are not the negative things depression lies about to you. Please talk to me
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I've noticed ...... That make me think you're in a bad place right now. I would like to help by........
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I have observed you being really hard on yourself lately. I see you very differently.
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I know you’re hurting right now. I’m here for you. You’re not alone.
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You mentioned that 'everyone would be better off.' That's a really heavy thing to feel. Are you having thoughts of ending your life?
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I know you seemed to be joking when you said [suspicious phrase], but it worried me because I care about you. Is that how you're actually feeling?
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When you say you 'just want everything to stop,' it makes me wonder if you're thinking about suicide. Can we talk about that?
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You've seemed different lately, and I'm concerned. Are you thinking about hurting yourself?
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I hear that you want me to drop it, and I will. But because I care about you, I just need to know one thing: Are you safe right now, or do we need to find someone to help?
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I've noticed you've been a bit quiet lately. I really miss your perspective on things—how are you doing today?
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I was just thinking about that time we [shared memory], and it made me laugh. I just wanted to let you know you're on my mind today.
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Hey, I noticed you were a bit quiet in the group chat today. Just checking in—it's not the same when you're not chiming in.
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I saw [item/movie/show] and immediately thought of you. I hope your day is going okay.
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I know you mentioned feeling a bit like a ghost lately. I just wanted to say that I see you, and you matter a lot to me.
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I really value your perspective on [topic]. No one else looks at things quite the way you do, and I really appreciate that about you.
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You have a way of making [situation] better just by being there. Thank you for being you.
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I know it can feel like you're an outsider sometimes, but you're a central part of my world. I'm really glad we're in each other's lives.
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Just a reminder that I'm in your corner today and every day. No need to reply—I just wanted you to know.
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I know things feel heavy right now. I'm not going anywhere, and I'm happy to sit in the quiet with you if that helps.
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I'm checking in because I care about you. I'll keep checking in, too, because you're important to me.
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I know you've had people let you down before. I want you to know I'm committed to being here for you, through the good and the absolute worst.
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Okay, I hear you. I'll step back. Just know that I'm in your corner, and if that 'invisible' feeling comes back, my phone is always on—no judgment.
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I'm not trying to pester you. I've just noticed you haven't been yourself lately, and that matters to me because you matter to me. We don't have to talk now, but I'm not going anywhere.
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You're not a burden—fr, I'm glad you told me. I'm here.
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You don't have to do tonight solo. We've got this.
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It makes sense you're drained—anyone in your spot would be.
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Talking about suicidal thoughts won't freak me out—I want to understand.
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Thanks for trusting me. Let's just focus on keeping you safe rn.
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Your life matters so much—to me and to heaps of people.
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Minute by minute is fine—no huge decisions today.
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Let's skip the 'how' details and stick to what keeps you safe.
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If you want, I'll stay on the call while we line up extra support.
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It's brave to say this out loud. There's 24/7 help in Aus.
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If you feel wobbly later, text me 'HELP?' and I'll call you.
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Food, water, and rest aren't magic, but they can steady you—want to try one?
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You deserve support on good days too—not just crisis days.
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If your safety's at risk, I won't keep it a secret—I care too much.
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I'm not here to fix everything—just to stay with you and find the next step.
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We spend more time together at work than almost anywhere. I notice things. I'm worried about you.
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I know work isn't the place we usually talk about this stuff. But I'd rather have an awkward conversation than ignore what I'm seeing.
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You don't have to keep it together in front of me. I'm not just a colleague — I'm someone who cares about you.
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Whatever is going on — inside or outside work — I'm here if you want to talk.
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Work can wait. You can't.
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I'd rather risk an awkward moment than lose a colleague and friend.
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I'm speaking to you now not as your manager but as someone who genuinely cares about your wellbeing.
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I've noticed some changes and I want you to know that your job is safe — I'm asking about you, not your performance.
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Your health — all of it, including mental health — matters more than any deadline
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I'm not asking as your manager right now. I'm asking as another human being.
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Take whatever time you need. We'll manage the workload. You just focus on you.
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You've been carrying too much for too long. That's not sustainable and it's not your fault.
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No job is worth your health. Not this one. Not any one.
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Losing this job does not reflect your value or your capability. The business made this decision — not a judgement about you.
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This is a setback not a lifelong situation. Life changes all the time and we don’t know what is coming.
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What is happening to you at work is not okay and it is not your fault.
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Please don't let someone else's behaviour make you question your own worth.
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This is [name], [name] and [name]. We all wanted you to know we are thinking of you today.
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Your whole team misses you. The office isn't the same without you.
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We had a meeting today and someone said I wish [name] was here. Everyone agreed.
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The whole team has noticed you're going through something difficult. We all want you to know we're here.
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From all of us — we see you, we value you, and we're not going anywhere.
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Depression steals your ability to imagine any positives in the future. That’s not correct.
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The part of your brain that generates hope is temporarily offline. It will come back.
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Hopelessness is a feeling. Not a fact. There is a significant difference.
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What you believe right now about the future is not accurate. It is what emotional pain believes.
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Right now your brain is showing you a false picture of what lies ahead. Please don't act on a false picture.
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Distress makes the future look empty. It isn't. You are temporarily blinded.
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There are people you haven't met yet who will love you deeply.
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Somewhere in your future is a moment when you will be so glad you stayed. Please stay for that moment.
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Your future self needs you to hold on right now.
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Five years from now we all will be in a completely different place. Please give yourself time.
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The only thing certain about how you feel right now is that it will not always feel this way.
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I have known people who were exactly where you are now who are today living lives they love.
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Depression is one of the most treatable conditions in medicine. Please let it be treated.
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You haven't tried everything yet. Please stay until you have.
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I know you feel like a burden. That feeling is one of depression's standard lies.
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The thought that you are a burden is a symptom of your illness — not an accurate assessment of reality.
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Feeling like a burden and being a burden are completely different things. I insist you are not a burden.
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If our positions were reversed would you call me a burden? Then please don't call yourself one.
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Being here for you is not a burden. It is a privilege.
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The real burden would be losing you. Please don't put that long term burden on me and others.
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Please let us support you for a while until you recover from this distress
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Love doesn't run out. I promise you that.
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However long this takes — I am here for all of it.
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Losing someone you loved is one of the most painful human experiences. Your grief makes complete sense. I understand but I am definite you will heal.
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The end of a relationship is a real loss and brings real grief until it slowly fades away
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Grief over a relationship is as valid as any other grief. Please don't minimise what you're feeling. Remember grief gets less painful in time.
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The intensity of this pain will reduce. Not because what you lost didn't matter — but because humans are built to heal.
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You will not always feel this way. I know that is impossible to believe right now. But it is true.
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Grief comes in waves. The waves get smaller over time. Not today perhaps, but over time they will stop.
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I am certain you will love again and be loved. I know that feels impossible. It isn't.
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You're one of my favourite people. I hate seeing you suffer like this
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I'm not going anywhere. You're stuck with me.
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I miss you. Not your Instagram. You.
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I know you think you're a burden. You're not. You're my person.
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I'd rather have an awkward conversation than lose you.
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What you see online isn't real life. Your pain is real. So is my love for you.
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You are so much more than your likes, your looks or your grades.
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Social media shows highlight reels. Your worth has nothing to do with any of it.
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No grade is worth your life. In the future no one will even remember.
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I don't care what you scored. I care that you're here.
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Exams can be retaken. You cannot be replaced.
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Failing an exam is survivable. Losing you is not.
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You do not have to be perfect for your family to love you. They love you as a package deal like all of us are.
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Your family needs you alive and imperfect far more than they need you perfect and gone.
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Darkness breeds lies. Please remember that and don't listen to the lies tonight.
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Text me. I don't care what time it is.
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I'd rather you wake me up than face this alone.
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3am lies to people. Whatever your mind is telling you right now at this hour — please wait until morning before believing it.
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Asking for help isn't weak. Carrying this alone is just unnecessary.
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The strongest thing you can do right now is to tell someone how bad it is.
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You'd help me without hesitating. Let me do the same.
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You don't have to man up. You just have to hold on until we get help or the pain settles down
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I'm not always good at saying this but I love you and I need you here.
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I'm proud of you in ways I haven't said enough. Let me start now.
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I'm your dad. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your husband. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your wife. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your partner. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your boyfriend. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your girlfriend. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your mum. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your sister. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your brother. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your uncle. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your aunt. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your grandad. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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I'm your grandma. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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We are best friends. That means I'm on your side. Always. No matter what.
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Let me be selfish and tell you I need you in my life now and in my future.
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I need you to stay around in my life. Just as you are
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I want you to know and talk to my children
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What message will harming yourself give to the family we both know?
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What message will harming yourself give to my children?
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You cannot see the positives you bring to the lives of others, but I can. I want more of what you bring.
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We have been together through bad times in the past. Please don’t change that.
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Nobody tells you how hard caring for a baby can be. The gap between what you expected and what you feel is not your fault.
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The image of the glowing happy new mother is a myth for many women. Please don't measure yourself against a myth.
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Society tells new mothers they should be overjoyed. Society is wrong about how complicated this really is.
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Feeling dark thoughts after having a baby does not make you a bad mother. It makes you someone with a medical condition that needs treatment.
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You are not a bad mother. You are an unwell mother. Those are completely different things.
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A mother who gets help is better than a mother who suffers in silence. Please get help, or let me go with you for help.
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Your baby needs you to be your old self. Getting help is the most motherly thing you can do right now.
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The thoughts you are having frighten you because you love your baby. That fear is actually evidence of your love.
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I see how hard you are trying. I see you struggling. I am not going anywhere.
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I don't need you to be okay. I need you to be here. Please talk to me.
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Put the baby down for a minute. I've got them. Tell me how you really are.
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I know our culture expects you to be happy and coping. But your health matters more than appearances.
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Women in the past faced depression after childbirth without support. You don't have to.
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I'm here.
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Still here.
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Right beside you.
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Not leaving.
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I'm with you.
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You've got me.
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Always here.
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You matter.
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You are loved.
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You are needed.
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You are seen.
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You are irreplaceable.
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You belong here.
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My world needs you.
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Better days come inevitably.
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This won't last forever.
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Your story isn't finished.
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Don't miss what's coming.
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You will feel joy again.
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It gets better. Genuinely.
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The sun comes back. Always.
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